Swami Ananda Saraswati
From Prasnottara Ratna Malika
When we put ourselves on a very high pedestal than reality, this becomes the main source of disappointment. This happens only when we are confused about our own self. We tend to project ourselves incorrectly and make our presence very difficult for others. This is also related to the sense of insecurity which is the key cause for this over-estimation of ourselves in the first place. There is a beautiful saying ‘Who are you is so loud that I cannot hear what you speak?”
The excessive dressing is a simple example and sign of covering one’s own vacuum and sadly in expectation of reciprocation from the other person. When the reciprocation does not happen it leads to disappointment. It is important to remember that one does not get disappointed by others but by taking one’s own self for granted. So when the results which we get are not in line with our expectations, disappointment follows.